I'm not. That is the definition of Stage IV, Metastatic. I'll never be "cured." There are 155,000 of us in the US. Having metastatic cancer is entirely different that earlier stages. The treatment focus is different. Instead of eradicating, the doctors seek to keep the disease at bay.
Cancer.net defines Stage IV: "This stage means that the cancer has spread to other organs or parts of the body. It may also be called advanced or metastatic cancer."
The Metastatic Breast Cancer Alliance, in their 2016 report, Changing the Landscape for People Living with Metastatic Breast Cancer, noted:
The dominance of the “breast cancer survivor” identity masks the reality that patients treated for early stage breast cancer can experience metastatic recurrence. The focus on survivorship obscures the fact that, in spite of decades of breast cancer awareness and research funding, 40,000 women and men still die of breast cancer every year in the United States with metastasis the cause of virtually all deaths from breast cancer.
Metastatic breast cancer (MBC), also referred to as stage IV breast cancer, is an incurable, albeit treatable, progressive cancer that originates in the breast and then spreads to other parts of the body, such as bones, liver, lungs, or brain.
While some progress with research and new treatments has been made in reducing mortality rates from breast cancer, median survival after an MBC diagnosis is 3 years—and this has not increased meaningfully in more than 20 years. Despite these statistics, research funding for MBC accounts for only 7% of the total breast cancer research investment.
We talk of hope for NED: "No Evidence of Disease." That's my current goal. But however long I may be given, I am going to battle this for as long as I'm given. Period. I may have a reprieve or two. Or sixteen. I may live decades. Without treatment, possibly a year or two.
But I will never be "cured." I suspect that most people who get cancer are not "cured."
Treatment is not wonderful. I'm having a hard time. Tonight, I am home instead of celebrating Christmas with my hubby's band and some friends. I'm home because I feel like crap. I am in GI pain and I can't trust my system to behave. I can feel that long bone pain that says I'm reaching for the white blood cells I don't have (it's that bone and muscle ache like when you get the flu.) Speaking of flu, people may make me sick as a dog with simple colds. Flu shots don't work if you have no immune system to rally against the virus.
Nor is it easy emotionally. With all of the drama, I also feel emotionally drained, quick to temper, and frightened of our political world and the negative impact it almost certainly will have on me. I have to wrestle a demon that wants me dead and all of this makes that seem so much more likely.
There are folks trying to quantify our experience; the Metastatic Breast Cancer Alliance actually conducted a study and noted these findings, and I agree with every one of them:
- Emotional distress, experienced by a majority of MBC patients, is associated with increasing physical symptoms.
- You follow this blog; you know how I feel. It's more than physical.
- Most patients initially report adequate emotional support from friends, family, and community, but many feel isolated by the experience of the disease; social stigma is felt by half of MBC patients, especially within the breast cancer community.
- You see what has happened within my own family. My new hypothesis: it is easier for these "loving" members of my family to keep a distance, so they just used any excuse.
Among other survivors -- they are just so sure that it won't happen to them, and they don't want to be reminded. Best to keep a distance.
- Individualized information about MBC is a critical factor for informed participation in treatment decision making. Information also plays an important role in coping by reducing uncertainty, lack of control, and distress. Many MBC patients do not receive adequate information from health care providers to enable them to understand the disease and its treatments so they can make informed decisions. Patients’ understanding of the nature of the disease and goals of treatment is often poor; many believe they will be cured.
- I'm going to argue that that applies at much earlier stages. I want a mathematical calculator that helps understand the statistical benefits and costs. The only one I found is now defunct. (Too many updates, I suppose.) But we deserve a more honest look than we usually get. Most treatments are measured by a few percentage points. But that isn't all they held back from me: I never thought I would ever be Stage IV. I was a good girl and did what I was told. No one told me this, and they should have.
- Most MBC patients suffer multiple symptoms of disease and side effects of treatment that disrupt their lives—most common are fatigue, pain, and sleep problems. Despite this, half of patients say they are not routinely asked about their symptoms and express concern about “bothering” their doctors.
- Ok, no one is going to accuse me of being shy with my docs.
- Financial hardship is a common issue for families dealing with MBC, and many patients do not realize they will likely qualify for Social Security Disability benefits or Medicare. Even, if eligible, the 2-year waiting period for Medicare represents a financially vulnerable time; many file for bankruptcy and face lower standards of living. Other practical needs may include transportation to treatment, home, shopping and child care, disability and insurance applications, and work-related issues, among others.
- This!! A thousand times!! I now calculate $60,000 in medical costs out of pocket. I face a decline in my standard of living as I retire into disability. God help me if they cut that.
- A significant number of MBC patients report they are not receiving the help they need to address their physical symptoms, side effects from treatment, and emotional distress.
- All I know is that one dose of that anti-depressant nearly killed me by itself.
- Action and initiatives based on the findings from surveys of patients’ needs, and other research, are lacking.
- And this is the fundamental problem with MBC: it is severely under-funded. Research even now focuses on earlier stages, and utilizes early stage disease. No one gets it, no one researches it; we all die from it.